Often times, persons blame others for their own feelings. We do shift the responsibility of how we are feeling to others. We all say things like "She made me mad." "She hurt me." "He freaked me out." "He makes me unhappy." "He makes me feel bad about myself." These kinds of comment imply that we have no choice in how we feel and that others have control over us. In the real sense, we have control - they don't.